Islamic Parenting

15th January 2018, 29 Jamadilawal 1439H

Islamic parenting (in sequence)

Abu Hurayra said, "The Prophet was asked, 'Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful?' 'Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' 'Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' 'Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' He replied, 'Your father.'" (Al-Adab Al-Mufrad)

Surat Luqmān (Luqman), Chapter 31, Verse 12-19:

Be grateful

"And We had certainly given Luqman wisdom [and said], "Be grateful to Allah ." And whoever is grateful is grateful for [the benefit of] himself. And whoever denies [His favor] - then indeed, Allah is Free of need and Praiseworthy.

Do not shirk [associate [anything] with Allah]
And [mention, O Muhammad], when Luqman said to his son while he was instructing him, "O my son, do not associate [anything] with Allah . Indeed, association [with him] is great injustice."

Be grateful to Allah S.W.T. and our parents
And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.

But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me [in repentance]. Then to Me will be your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do.

Be sincere
[And Luqman said], "O my son, indeed if wrong should be the weight of a mustard seed and should be within a rock or [anywhere] in the heavens or in the earth, Allah will bring it forth. Indeed, Allah is Subtle and Acquainted.

Establish prayer (solah), do the right things, abstain from bad things, be patient 
O my son, establish prayer, enjoin what is right, forbid what is wrong, and be patient over what befalls you. Indeed, [all] that is of the matters [requiring] determination.

Do not be self-deluded and boastful
And do not turn your cheek [in contempt] toward people and do not walk through the earth exultantly. Indeed, Allah does not like everyone self-deluded and boastful.

Be moderate in our pace and lower our voice
And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys." (Quran 31:12-19)

"Dan sesungguhnya Kami telah memberi kepada Luqman, hikmat kebijaksanaan, (serta Kami perintahkan kepadanya): Bersyukurlah kepada Allah (akan segala nikmatNya kepadamu)". Dan sesiapa yang bersyukur maka faedahnya itu hanyalah terpulang kepada dirinya sendiri, dan sesiapa yang tidak bersyukur (maka tidaklah menjadi hal kepada Allah), kerana sesungguhnya Allah Maha Kaya, lagi Maha Terpuji.

Dan (ingatlah) ketika Luqman berkata kepada anaknya, semasa ia memberi nasihat kepadanya:" Wahai anak kesayanganku, janganlah engkau mempersekutukan Allah (dengan sesuatu yang lain), sesungguhnya perbuatan syirik itu adalah satu kezaliman yang besar".

Dan Kami wajibkan manusia berbuat baik kepada kedua ibu bapanya; ibunya telah mengandungnya dengan menanggung kelemahan demi kelemahan (dari awal mengandung hingga akhir menyusunya), dan tempoh menceraikan susunya ialah dalam masa dua tahun; (dengan yang demikian) bersyukurlah kepadaKu dan kepada kedua ibubapamu; dan (ingatlah), kepada Akulah jua tempat kembali (untuk menerima balasan).

Dan jika mereka berdua mendesakmu supaya engkau mempersekutukan denganKu sesuatu yang engkau - dengan fikiran sihatmu - tidak mengetahui sungguh adanya maka janganlah engkau taat kepada mereka; dan bergaulah dengan mereka di dunia dengan cara yang baik. Dan turutlah jalan orang-orang yang rujuk kembali kepadaKu (dengan tauhid dan amal-amal yang soleh). Kemudian kepada Akulah tempat kembali kamu semuanya, maka Aku akan menerangkan kepada kamu segala yang kamu telah kerjakan.

(Luqman menasihati anaknya dengan berkata): "Wahai anak kesayanganku, sesungguhnya jika ada sesuatu perkara (yang baik atau yang buruk) sekalipun seberat bijih sawi, serta ia tersembunyi di dalam batu besar atau di langit atau pun di bumi, sudah tetap akan dibawa oleh Allah (untuk dihakimi dan dibalasNya); kerana sesungguhnya Allah Maha Halus pengetahuanNya; lagi Amat Meliputi akan segala yang tersembunyi.

"Wahai anak kesayanganku, dirikanlah sembahyang, dan suruhlah berbuat kebaikan, serta laranglah daripada melakukan perbuatan yang mungkar, dan bersabarlah atas segala bala bencana yang menimpamu. Sesungguhnya yang demikian itu adalah dari perkara-perkara yang dikehendaki diambil berat melakukannya.

"Dan janganlah engkau memalingkan mukamu (kerana memandang rendah) kepada manusia, dan janganlah engkau berjalan di bumi dengan berlagak sombong; sesungguhnya Allah tidak suka kepada tiap-tiap orang yang sombong takbur, lagi membanggakan diri.

"Dan sederhanakanlah langkahmu semasa berjalan, juga rendahkanlah suaramu (semasa berkata-kata), sesungguhnya seburuk-buruk suara ialah suara keldai". (Quran 31:12-19)

Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:

"When a person dies, his deeds are cut off except for three: Continuing charity, knowledge that others benefited from, and a righteous son who supplicates for him." (Tirmidhi)

Yahya related to me from Malik from Yahya ibn Said that Said ibn al-Musayyab used to say, "A man is raised by the dua of his son after his death." He spoke with his hands turned upwards, and then lifted them up. (Muwatta Malik)